Supporting Someone You Love That Has Anxiety

When someone we care about struggles with anxiety, it can be hard to know how to help. You might find yourself walking on eggshells, unsure of what to say or do. You want to ease their worry, but sometimes your efforts don’t seem to make a difference—or even make things worse. The good news is, with understanding and a few small shifts, you can offer genuine support that makes a real impact.

Start with Understanding

Anxiety isn’t simply “worrying too much.” It’s a physical and emotional response that can feel overwhelming and uncontrollable. When someone is anxious, their body and mind are on high alert—even if the situation doesn’t seem stressful to others. Recognizing that anxiety is not a choice helps you respond with empathy rather than frustration.

Instead of offering quick fixes like “Just calm down” or “There’s nothing to worry about,” try listening first. Simple statements like “That sounds really hard” or “I can see this is upsetting for you” can be incredibly grounding. Often, people with anxiety aren’t looking for someone to solve their problems—they just want to feel heard and safe.

Be a Steady Presence

When anxiety spirals, reassurance can help—but only when it’s consistent and calm. If your friend or partner is panicking, take a deep breath before you respond. Your calm energy can help them regulate their own. Sometimes, sitting quietly together, taking a short walk, or practicing slow breathing side by side can be more powerful than any words.

It’s also okay to set boundaries. Supporting someone with anxiety doesn’t mean absorbing all their fears or putting your own needs aside. It’s healthy to say, “I care about you, and I also need some space right now.” In fact, modeling good self-care can encourage your loved one to do the same.

Encourage Professional Help

If anxiety is starting to affect daily life, work, or relationships, therapy can make a real difference. A trained therapist can help your loved one understand their anxiety, learn coping tools, and build confidence in managing it. You can gently suggest therapy by saying something like, “You don’t have to go through this alone—there are people who can help.”

Take Care of You, Too

Supporting someone with anxiety can be emotionally draining. Make sure you have your own outlets for stress—whether that’s talking with friends, exercising, journaling, or seeking your own therapy. You can’t pour from an empty cup.

Anxiety can feel isolating, but no one has to face it alone. With empathy, patience, and the right support, healing is possible—for both of you.

If you or someone you love is struggling with anxiety, I’m here to help. Flatiron Mental Health Counseling offers a compassionate, supportive space to understand and work through anxiety—together.

By: Alex Smith